"Listen and Watch" - C-level Heroes
Last week, this hit song from the peak rap battle in China caught my attention. After watching a reaction video by 2f last night, I added it to my playlist. Rappers writing love songs is really cool, and I recommend it because it sounds great and is very popular. I really like Pharaoh this season, he's someone with attitude but also free-spirited.
Ways to Deal with Anger#
But the magical thing is, you will find that most things in the world, as long as you smoothly pass through the emotions of yourself, you don't need to communicate anymore.
Because you have accepted it, and there is no more anger!
When you realize that "my happiness" has nothing to do with "whether the other person meets my expectations," what's the point of communication? There is no longer a need for communication.
Because you realize that you actually have complete control over your own emotions.
Many times, I know that emotions are the product of the present moment, but what I didn't expect is that there is a little technique for externalizing negative emotions that I didn't pay much attention to before. When you can't handle or digest them, give it a try! For example, when I just caught the high-speed train, there were still more than twenty minutes before departure, and the taxi ride was only ten minutes. Before leaving, I specifically told the driver that I was in a hurry to catch the train, hoping to get there as soon as possible. However, he still took a route with heavy traffic. When there was less than ten minutes left, I ran with my luggage, luckily making it in time. I just want to say to the driver, you're such a fool.
How Can Ordinary People "Change Their Destiny"?#
In recent years, I have had two dimensions of understanding about "destiny": the original family and the era in which one lives, which basically frame most people's lives.
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Finally, this article is not advocating determinism, but analyzing from the life samples of most ordinary people and drawing the conclusion that the lives of some ordinary people have already been framed by their family background and the era in which they live. You should reasonably break out of that circle.
As an ordinary person, as my age and experience gradually increase, my personal understanding expands and matures. I increasingly feel that the era limits a person's scope of activities, and the original family (original accumulation) limits a person's range of activities within this circle. Even if I feel that this range is only equal and there is no difference in height, there are indeed differences. These are differences in experience and are difficult to overcome. In the face of unlimited desires of some people, this is painful. Changing my mindset to make myself happier is simpler, and being sincere and diligent will also make me move forward with a clear conscience.
Learn to Communicate Effective Information#
Last year, I wrote about the most important thing I learned during my first internship: learn to communicate effective information. What pitfalls have you encountered that may inspire others? Provide direct conclusions, don't waste both parties' time. Don't describe the process, but describe insightful conclusions.
In English, it's called "take away." Practice giving possible audiences a take away. This is the practice of the Feynman learning method.
When forwarding content that I think is valuable, it's best to include the key points of the article or my own opinions: give the recipient more results without wasting both parties' time, and cultivate the ability to process information. It's best to combine it with existing knowledge when sharing, and output "my opinion." When editing the weekly report, I often think about whether the articles I share have resonated with me and made me admire them. I wonder if the personal thoughts I write are my true language. Editing and publishing the weekly report takes an afternoon and can be mentally draining. For a designer who focuses more on visual design, this kind of writing exercise is great.
Expression Methods and Inner Needs#
In expression, "I" is not that important. What is important is what changes this information has brought to you.
In expression, "my experiences" may not be effective for others, after all, "my experience with them" is very different in terms of experience, life, and judgment.
Yesterday, a colleague asked me what the biggest change in my personality was after working. I replied that I have become more rational. When I just graduated, I was often sentimental and easily swayed by emotions. Now it seems that I can control myself more easily. I really like the author's words: "When the expression is a 'need of the inner self,' the feedback you hope to receive; when the expression is a 'tool,' you can adjust it according to the goal, occasion, and desired feedback." Recognizing these two points can help better control and adjust one's expression.